“Women can change better’n a man,” Ma said soothingly. “Woman got all her life in her arms. Man got it all in his head.”
“Man, he lives in jerks – baby born an’ a man dies, an’ that’s a jerk – gets a farm and looses his farm, an’ that’s a jerk. Woman, its all one flow, like a stream, little eddies, little waterfalls, but the river, it goes right on. Woman looks at it like that.”
That was Ma Joad from Grapes of Wrath by John Steinbeck. I’ll never forget the ending of this great John Ford movie with the surviving family members driving off into the richly toned black and white sunrise in their old truck. Beat up but still running because it had to, I would argue that truck symbolized their lives.
Goenkaji had great advice for we who live in our heads too. He said, in effect:
Whenever negativity arises in the mind, just observe it — recognize the physical sensations associated with the negative emotions, and face them. Accept them for what they are.
Do not focus on the object person or event associated with the negativity, or the negativity will multiply. Observe the sensation, and let it go.
Mental impurities cause unhappiness. As soon as you start to observe a mental impurity, it begins to lose its strength and slowly withers away. Once all unhappiness is eradicated, all that’s left is happiness.
Paraphrased from the Art of Living, by S.N. Goenka.